How Childhood Experiences Shape Your Subconscious Beliefs
From a young age, we are like sponges, absorbing information and experiences without questioning them. In those formative years, our minds are open and impressionable, and the beliefs we form during this time become the foundation of our subconscious. These early beliefs shape how we see ourselves, others, and the world around us—sometimes well into adulthood.
But what if some of those beliefs no longer serve us? Let’s explore how these early experiences leave lasting imprints on our subconscious and what we can do to rewrite the beliefs that hold us back.
The Power of Early Experiences
From birth until around the age of seven, our brains operate primarily in a state known as “theta,” a brainwave state that allows for deep learning and imagination. In this state, we’re absorbing everything around us, and this input from parents, family members, teachers, and other influential figures shapes our fundamental beliefs. We learn not only through words but through actions and body language—how those around us react to situations, handle stress, or communicate emotions.
For example:
Beliefs about Self-Worth: If we were consistently praised and valued, we may grow up with a strong sense of self-worth. But if we experienced criticism or conditional approval, we might have internalised the belief that our worth is tied to achievements or pleasing others.
Beliefs about Relationships: Watching how caregivers interact can shape our expectations of relationships. If we observed healthy boundaries and respect, we may seek those qualities in our relationships. But if we witnessed conflict, abandonment, or neglect, our subconscious may have absorbed beliefs around insecurity, mistrust, or people-pleasing.
Beliefs about Safety and the World: A secure childhood can foster a sense of trust in the world, while a turbulent or unpredictable environment can plant seeds of anxiety and caution. As adults, these beliefs impact how we handle uncertainty and approach new challenges.
How Subconscious Beliefs Shape Our Adult Lives
These early beliefs become the “scripts” our subconscious mind uses to interpret our adult experiences. Even though we may not remember specific events, the emotions and impressions from those years remain ingrained in our subconscious, guiding our decisions and reactions.
Here’s how these beliefs might manifest:
Self-Sabotage: If we were taught, directly or indirectly, that we are “not good enough,” this belief might lead us to sabotage opportunities or doubt our abilities.
Struggling with Boundaries: If we learned that love is earned through sacrifice, we might struggle to set healthy boundaries, fearing rejection if we put our own needs first.
Fear of Failure: Beliefs around perfectionism or fear of failure often stem from environments where mistakes were met with harsh criticism. As adults, we may avoid challenges or put immense pressure on ourselves to succeed.
The Path to Rewriting Unhelpful Beliefs
Recognising and releasing these beliefs isn’t always easy. Since they live deep within our subconscious, they’re not always accessible through willpower alone. This is where therapeutic methods like Root Cause Therapy (RCT) come in, offering a way to explore, understand, and heal these formative beliefs.
Through Root Cause Therapy, we:
Uncover the Origin: We trace your current patterns and behaviours back to their origin, finding the early experiences that shaped your beliefs.
Process and Release: By addressing the emotions and beliefs formed in those early years, we can release their grip on your present-day life.
Rewrite Your Story: With old beliefs resolved, you’re free to rewrite your story based on who you are now—not who your childhood experiences shaped you to be.
Imagine waking up each day guided by a foundation of self-worth, trust, and confidence. It’s not just a possibility; it’s a transformation waiting to happen.
Ready to Rewrite Your Story?
If you’ve ever felt that something deep inside holds you back, it may be time to explore the power of your subconscious beliefs. These beliefs were shaped long ago, but that doesn’t mean they have to define your future.
If you’re ready to dive deeper and uncover the beliefs that no longer serve you, let’s talk. Book a call with me today, and let’s start the journey to a more empowered, authentic life.
